How do I know when I'm in love?
In today's world, teenagers are faced with more exposure to sex than ever before because of their constant access to media through technology, as well as the marketing industries' over-obsessive usage of sex for website hits and sales = money. The end result is that the adult family and community are no longer an affective mediator to a teenager's understanding of what sex and relationships are all about. Both genders are getting mixed ideas and signals, which relates in confusion. And so they just default to what their brain in constantly subjected to by media and marketing. Check out neuro-marketing for more information on this.
The youth and adults of our society are being programmed by repetitious exposure to sexual innuendos, images, and other explicit material on a consistent basis without the present eye of an adult, lovingly teaching them what sex is for and how it can be best utilized in a loving relationship. So teenagers start jumping from one partner to the next at young ages, never realizing the potential of a fulfilling relationship versus a shallow one until much later in their lives.
Even though now days, having sex quickly within a relationship is common, it reveals little evidence to creating a strong bond between a couple, more than just infatuation. With the rise of STDs and pregnancy, teaching our youth the importance of safe sexual practices as well as the consequences of pregnancy in a non-judgmental but loving way can go far to help them make better choices in those crucial moments. However, teaching a child that waiting a person out to see if they work together long-term teaches them the values of real love, the thing we are all looking for.
When children and teens have loving role models in their homes, and frequent interactions about subjects such as these, they are able to experience the values in three ways; emotionally through objective interaction, intellectually (talking) and experientially (through your role-modeling) and then place greater importance of family values to which they carry on to their families. We are to be the examples for our children of ways we would like our society to be more based on unconditional love and equality.
Realizing that all adults are examples to other children, like your teen's friends, also helps us see how our individual actions can affect our communities at a larger level. If you are not at place to have these sorts of conversations with your children, quite likely, you will need to also become more educated on positive parenting. The reason this is important, is your child is watching everything you do, so if you try to educate them against your primary behaviors, this will leave them feeling unsure about the things you are telling them. As in, if you believe them so much, how come you aren't doing it? Its a tough question to answer. So becoming the role model of the type of child you wish to raise is the most effective way to raise inteligent kids. In the meantime,...
Try using websites like this one listed below to educate your teen. Especially for girls since girls have a little more to lose than males, and the potential for a lot worse consequences after sexual encounters. It is our job as parents to teach girls how to protect themselves in multiple different ways with knowledge, answering questions, and being okay with the subjects they bring up or sometimes you might even have to approach them continually to get them to open up. If you struggle with this, try using Google with them to find answers or help them find a guidance counselor that can be more objective to fulfill their needs. If you would like me to work with your teen you can contact me here for my services.
Whether you are a teen or adult, this website has an article on how to tell the difference between love or infatuation. I think it serves as a good reminder after watching the media's crippled version of relationships. This will arm your teen with the knowledge of what to be aware of and look for, as well as gives a story from an 18 year old that has chosen to wait. Check it out here and leave your comments below. Understanding True Love.
Another article highlighting what men really want, in the popular Psychology Today online magazine, reports that although men are stereotyped into wanting only one thing, the studies have shown they also have a broader range of attributes they are looking for. You can read it here. These kinds of articles can help us to better shape and mold the youth into learning how to recognize their deeper, inner needs so that they can create healthy relationships in their future and on into adulthood.
The youth and adults of our society are being programmed by repetitious exposure to sexual innuendos, images, and other explicit material on a consistent basis without the present eye of an adult, lovingly teaching them what sex is for and how it can be best utilized in a loving relationship. So teenagers start jumping from one partner to the next at young ages, never realizing the potential of a fulfilling relationship versus a shallow one until much later in their lives.
Even though now days, having sex quickly within a relationship is common, it reveals little evidence to creating a strong bond between a couple, more than just infatuation. With the rise of STDs and pregnancy, teaching our youth the importance of safe sexual practices as well as the consequences of pregnancy in a non-judgmental but loving way can go far to help them make better choices in those crucial moments. However, teaching a child that waiting a person out to see if they work together long-term teaches them the values of real love, the thing we are all looking for.
When children and teens have loving role models in their homes, and frequent interactions about subjects such as these, they are able to experience the values in three ways; emotionally through objective interaction, intellectually (talking) and experientially (through your role-modeling) and then place greater importance of family values to which they carry on to their families. We are to be the examples for our children of ways we would like our society to be more based on unconditional love and equality.
Realizing that all adults are examples to other children, like your teen's friends, also helps us see how our individual actions can affect our communities at a larger level. If you are not at place to have these sorts of conversations with your children, quite likely, you will need to also become more educated on positive parenting. The reason this is important, is your child is watching everything you do, so if you try to educate them against your primary behaviors, this will leave them feeling unsure about the things you are telling them. As in, if you believe them so much, how come you aren't doing it? Its a tough question to answer. So becoming the role model of the type of child you wish to raise is the most effective way to raise inteligent kids. In the meantime,...
Try using websites like this one listed below to educate your teen. Especially for girls since girls have a little more to lose than males, and the potential for a lot worse consequences after sexual encounters. It is our job as parents to teach girls how to protect themselves in multiple different ways with knowledge, answering questions, and being okay with the subjects they bring up or sometimes you might even have to approach them continually to get them to open up. If you struggle with this, try using Google with them to find answers or help them find a guidance counselor that can be more objective to fulfill their needs. If you would like me to work with your teen you can contact me here for my services.
Whether you are a teen or adult, this website has an article on how to tell the difference between love or infatuation. I think it serves as a good reminder after watching the media's crippled version of relationships. This will arm your teen with the knowledge of what to be aware of and look for, as well as gives a story from an 18 year old that has chosen to wait. Check it out here and leave your comments below. Understanding True Love.
Another article highlighting what men really want, in the popular Psychology Today online magazine, reports that although men are stereotyped into wanting only one thing, the studies have shown they also have a broader range of attributes they are looking for. You can read it here. These kinds of articles can help us to better shape and mold the youth into learning how to recognize their deeper, inner needs so that they can create healthy relationships in their future and on into adulthood.
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