For people that believe in traditional relationship roles, or find that men and women have innate roles in life, this is a great video that helps to see the respective differences between men and women. I really appreciated seeing how men and women rely on one another in these ways. It is not necessarily balanced in a logical way, but balanced nonetheless.
Many Americans are still searching for that special someone or wishing for a better connection with the one we are with, but a lot of us do not know what it is that is keeping us from really connecting with the opposite sex.
Below is a link to a great eBook designed by a man that runs men's therapy groups. However as a woman, I happen to find a lot of helpful tips as well! So no matter if your male or female, please take a look at this link and see if it doesn't help you connect better with others. Robert Glover's, No More Mr. Nice Guy Here is a great article on some tips you can use to improve your body language. These techniques not only make you feel great, but they make the other person feel great. When a person appears to be in control of themselves, this indicates to the other person a feeling of safety, which is a primal instinct we all want to have. This technique can be used in platonic relationships as well to create feelings of trust and friendship. Also, if you have to speak in front of groups or crowds, these techniques will draw more interest from your crowd.
Check it out: 9 body language tricks to being attractive Women want men to pursue them. It is the natural design in our being. However, now days, we are under the misconception (because of mass media and the supporting role of culture) that to be pursued we must look and act a certain way that is not in our true feminine nature. Women are playing up their features on their body that promote the idea of sex to a man. Women do this because they are under the impression that men want sex and if she gives him sex she'll get love and appreciation. Because of this misconception, women begin to feel objectified by men over time because the focus and action is being guided by an illusion. Women lose who they truly are in these illusions and never end up finding the right tools that would attract the types of men that would not objectify her. This isn't to say there aren't men that will objectify no matter how you behave, but behaving mysteriously rather than sexually will attract the right types of men into your life that are looking for what you are, not what you put out in the sense of sex! Men want emotional connection too. Men will gladly comply with the offer of fast sex, but just like for you, it is empty and does not maintain a relationship long term.
If you want to be a part of ending women being objectified in our society, and improve your own relationships in life, please read the following article and even sign up for the website email to learn more about how to be a feminine woman. And don't stop there, seek out many opinions from both men and women until you find an ethical and congruent values you believe in. Learn as much as you can about being the right type of woman, mother, sister, friend and community member. By taking control of your life this way, you become an example to girls, teens, and peers in your community. You are actually doing community service by working on yourself. You will also become a good example for platonic male relationships in your life giving them a clear idea on what a true feminine woman looks like. The benefits of being leader are endless and will leave you with fulfillment and contentment over doing something useful in your life that helps you and society. Here is that great article: The Feminine Woman - How to be Mysterious by Renee Wade. But there are many other websites that offer valuable advice on the psychology of relationships and how to be an effective role model and leader in your life. So if you have trouble getting what you want with a man, or people in general, start researching how to be attractive to men in the right way. There are many resources on the web that offer ideas on how to be attractive emotionally. I also suggest looking up how to be a leader since the role type is very similar to what we are all looking for in healthy relationships. Not to mention that if you learn to become a good leader, this is going to help you at home, achieving your passions, at work, with your friends, and in your community. What man does not want to be with a woman (or woman with a man, or same gender relationships) that already proves to be a wonderful attribute to society? If you care enough to do this for yourself, the other person already knows you will care enough to do it for others, which feels inclusive. Check out this article on the concepts of leadership and see how you can apply this in your life. |
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