If you want to be a part of ending women being objectified in our society, and improve your own relationships in life, please read the following article and even sign up for the website email to learn more about how to be a feminine woman. And don't stop there, seek out many opinions from both men and women until you find an ethical and congruent values you believe in. Learn as much as you can about being the right type of woman, mother, sister, friend and community member. By taking control of your life this way, you become an example to girls, teens, and peers in your community. You are actually doing community service by working on yourself. You will also become a good example for platonic male relationships in your life giving them a clear idea on what a true feminine woman looks like. The benefits of being leader are endless and will leave you with fulfillment and contentment over doing something useful in your life that helps you and society.
Here is that great article: The Feminine Woman - How to be Mysterious by Renee Wade. But there are many other websites that offer valuable advice on the psychology of relationships and how to be an effective role model and leader in your life.
So if you have trouble getting what you want with a man, or people in general, start researching how to be attractive to men in the right way. There are many resources on the web that offer ideas on how to be attractive emotionally. I also suggest looking up how to be a leader since the role type is very similar to what we are all looking for in healthy relationships. Not to mention that if you learn to become a good leader, this is going to help you at home, achieving your passions, at work, with your friends, and in your community. What man does not want to be with a woman (or woman with a man, or same gender relationships) that already proves to be a wonderful attribute to society? If you care enough to do this for yourself, the other person already knows you will care enough to do it for others, which feels inclusive.
Check out this article on the concepts of leadership and see how you can apply this in your life.